Lesbian sex is about as common as homosexual sex
About 1.8% of men identify as homosexual and about 1.5% of women identify as lesbian. Although homosexual sex and its jargon may be more popular in pop culture, lesbian sex is almost just as common. And despite what men's imaginations and the porn industry might tell you, it can be just as intimate as heterosexual sex.
It's all about the touch
In Ancient Greece, lesbianism was known as tribadisme, which means 'rub'. It has been used to describe lesbianism or an act where the two women rub their genitals against each other. Female-only sex focuses on touching much more than straight sex does. Hands can play just as important a role as the genitals do, and they are a great way to enhance foreplay. Men should learn a thing or two about the importance of foreplay AND using just their hands.
What is scissoring?
Scissoring is the practice of female-to-female genital contact, it can also be called tribadism. It can also involve a female rubbing her vulva against a body part of her partner's anywhere besides the mouth, which would be considered oral sex. It can be a great way to stimulate both partner's simultaneously without penetration. Simultaneous pleasure is almost always better than pleasure for one.
Oral sex is more common than you might think
Although oral sex is usually associated with sex involving a male, oral pleasure is just as important in lesbian sex. Kissing, cunnilingus and annulingus are common in lesbian sex and a great way to stimulate a partner. It can be more complex maneuvering female genitalia, so, practice makes perfect.
Penetration DOES happen in lesbian sex
Fun fact: penetration DOES exist in lesbian sex, and it can be a fairly standard part of the hookup session. Anal and vaginal penetration can happen using fingers, hands or tongues. Objects like sex toys, i.e. dildos and strap-ons, can be used regularly or for a special occasion in order to have sex. Similar to how women prefer clitoral vs. G-spot stimulation, some women may like oral sex more than penetration. You need to figure out what works for you.
What is fisting?
Fisting is a practice that involves inserting a hand or fist into the partner's vagina. The vagina engorges when aroused, allowing the practice of fisting, although it must be done carefully. If done too violently, the practice of fisting can cause lesions of the mucous membranes, from simple irritation to infections, and in rare cases, severe bruising or even sterility. Passionate, yet gentle is the safest way to go.
Transmission of STIs are possible
Even without penetration, lesbian sex also carries the risk of sexually transmitted disease or infections (STIs/STDs), and testing for infections is just as vital. Although condoms are not associated with lesbian sex as they are in heterosexual sex, it is still important to protect oneself and get tested regularly. It is also important to clean whatever frisky toys you use between each use. Even if you're not a clean freak, it's ALWAYS a good idea to be one when it comes to your kinky gadgets.
Protection is still important
When it comes to lesbian sex, a latex oral barrier or dental dam is advised. A barrier needs to cover the lips and vulva during sexual acts, should be used once, and changed when used on different parts of the body. You can use a standard condom or latex glove as a barrier, or you can purchase a dental dam. For any type of anal or vaginal penetration with sex objects, you should use a male condom or female condom. If engaging in penetration with each other's hands, it is advisable to use latex gloves. Even if that doesn't sound sexy, imagine it is part of a seductive nurse routine. The addition of lubricant can add pleasure and prevent pain with any of these activities. So latex-up and enjoy!
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