While it's perfectly acceptable for men douchebags to talk about the complex nuances of their 'wank bank', it's a lot more complicated, awkward and often taboo for women to do the same (there's a double standard for you). So we totally get it if touching yourself in front of your other half doesn't exactly rank highly on the list of things you're immediately comfortable doing in the bedroom.
So in efforts to boost your confidence, we asked guys on Reddit to see what they had to say about their other half pleasing herself in front of the them, and well, it just happens to be quite a major fantasy of theirs. Here's why they LOVE it.
1. Guys are all about the visual
"To me, it's hot as hell. Playing a voyeur of sorts with someone with whom you have a close connection is a turn on to me."
2. They LOVE to join in
"Hot as hell. My wife uses a wand and I cheer her on and assist as needed, playing with her breasts etc. About halfway through she'll get me to finger her G-spot to orgasm, which I love. Then she vibes 'til she gets her clit off. Tldr: I love watching, but I REALLY love participating."
3. It's great post-sex
"It's super hot. Sometimes it's late and sex would be a lot of work, sometimes it's after a quickie where she didn't cum. Usually I hold her from behind and play with her breasts, so she cums in my arms. Recently I've masturbated her to completion, which is a whole new level of erotic. Yes, it's hot, it's worth doing."
4. It's the perfect combination of innocent and hot
"I used to find porn of girls masturbating on their own quite boring. However, my girlfriend is submissive and I love making her masturbate in front of me, especially when I'm still wearing clothes as I can tell she's embarrassed by it. So yeah, in the right situation/in the right mood it can be a lot of fun."
5. The temptation to touch is HOT as hell
"It rarely happens (because I tend to get involved) but the few times my SO has just masturbated in front of me was incredibly hot. I guess my question is why would they lie about it? If someone doesn't find something hot why would they ask you to do it or why would they say they find it hot?"
6. It's amazing during sex sex, too
"I love watching my wife masturbate. She has recently gotten far more into rubbing herself during intercourse which is a huge turn on for me. The only real downside to that is that she is too sensitve after an orgasm, so she doesn't like me to go down on her immediately after. But as for plain old masturbation - fingers, toys, whatever... I'm up for it!"
7. Just thinking about it drives them wild
"Never experienced outside of her rubbing herself during sex but if I got to watch during a solo session that would totally be hot. Just thinking about it is getting me all frisky."
8. It shows your sexual confidence
"I'm loathe to make my fiancé's masturbation about me when it's clearly her enjoying her own body, but when I am invited (and let's be honest, it's generally an open invite for me to be around, or hold her, or whisper things from her current fantasy) I think it IS incredibly hot."
"Why not? It ties into the sexual confidence thing that is always the prized attribute in your sexual adventures. Someone who knows what they want, can tell you what it is..."
"All good sexual practice. That, and just seeing someone in pleasure is arousing. Intimate."
9. So long as you don't do it with another man though...
"So long as it's not when I walk in and find her on webcam with some guy, absolutely ploughing herself with a toy she'd never use with me saying something about 'fuck me with that big dick'. It's pretty great most other times."
10. They love seeing you lose yourself
"A turn on, but I prefer to be helping. I do love seeing her do what makes her cum and watch her get lost in hers."
11. It's almost as good as a threesome
"It is one of the hottest fucking things on the planet.. (..short of having another girl eat and finger her pussy)."
12. They'd happily watch all day, everyday
"I love it. I could watch girls get off all day every day, no problem. It's super sexy because I LOVE when she feels good... it gets me going, no matter what."
13. They secretly want you to do it
"Ridiculously hot. When my girlfriend tells me that she masturbates it turns me on. She even said it nonchalantly over the phone and my jaw dropped thinking about it.
"Yesterday I told her I'd like her to do it in front of me. Never done that before. Something's just so sexy about it. Can't wait to try licking her chest and kissing her neck while she touches herself."
14. It's a sexual bonus for them
"Yep - super hot! My ex would do this and my wife will not 
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"A very much missed activity..... Figure you can tell by now that it's not going to be a turn off so you can't go wrong here I don't think....unless you opt to NOT."
15. So our question: Does your man love it when you masturbate?
"YES - every man ever."
How do you feel about masturbating in front of your man? Tweet us @sofeminineUK!
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