In a recent interview with InStyle magazine, Cameron Diaz voiced her thoughts on monogamy. "I don’t know if anyone is really naturally monogamous. We all have the same instincts as animals. But we live in a society where it’s been ingrained in us to do these things,” she says.
Her words merely echo a society that doesn't always fully embrace the idea of committed relationships and monogamy. Social media alone makes it 100x harder to avoid temptation and accusations of infidelity. Let's not even discuss 'the bit on the side' who use these platforms to glorify their homewrecking status and those cheating guys that get exposed as a result. Ugh, the worst!
With everything considered, it's no wonder monogamy isn't exactly seen as the 'coolest' thing in our culture. However, we want you to know that being with one person for the rest of your life actually has its fair share of perks.
Don't believe us? Oh, you will...
1. The risk of STIs is decreased
According to the CDC, "A reliable way to avoid transmission of STIs is to abstain from oral, vaginal, and anal sex or to be in a long-term, mutually monogamous relationship with an uninfected partner."
The key words to keep in mind: "mutually monogamous". Even after you two have sworn to nix other partners, make sure you BOTH get tested on a regular basis. It can never hurt to receive a clean bill of health.
2. Condoms aren't as important
Yes, sex does feel better without them! We admit it. But before you get too carried away, don't forget everything we said above. It's also important to take other measures to prevent unwanted pregnancies. While we're all for pleasure, we like it to be done responsibly.
3. You'll never have to do the walk of shame again
We're cringing remembering mornings we'd creep into the house making sure no one saw us in yesterday's clothes. Yes, we've been bad, very bad... But it doesn't mean we want everyone to know it!
4. You can get as nasty as you very well please... every single time
Even the good girls like to get down and dirty from time to time. Now imagine being granted the liberty to get as filthy as your little heart desires every time you hit the sack. The freedom to let it all hang out is unmatched when in a committed relationship. Trust us. So by all means, let that inner sex pot run wild!
5. You'll master each other's body
This is one of the best things. There will be no more guessing what gets him off and vice versa. When you've been together for years, you'll come to know the exact coordinates of his most sensitive erogenous zones. No map or GPS necessary. Now go on, explore and conquer.
6. You can show him your 'O' face
Yes you have one. EVERYONE has one. That's when you know the orgasm was earth-shattering good. The type that made you curl up and cry because you couldn't believe how good it was. You know, the kind that was so intense you booked a session with your therapist right after.
With a lifelong partner, you won't have to be afraid to let out your inner gremlin when reaching the big O. Why? Because he's obligated to love you unconditionally anyway. Yup, gremlin hybrid and all.
7. You can experiment with no judgment
Now's the time to try all those weird and dirty fetishes you've been dreaming of. You'll be together forever, so why not? Bedroom behaviour will never grow stale once you both toss inhibition to the wind and live out your wildest fantasies. You'll be on that roller coaster together, so you're pretty much exempt from judgement.
8. You don't have to worry about awkward one night stands
One of the best perks of being in a committed relationship is never having to worry about those awkward one night stands ever again. The thought of waking up in the morning and having him see the REAL you, then running for the hills? We get chills at the thought. After being with your lover for years, they'll literally see and smell (hello, morning breath!) you at your worst. A one night stand just wouldn't understand, nor would you want him to.
9. Say bye bye to dry spells
There will be no more nights at home alone cuddling next to a glass of wine and your fave sex toy. You'll have a living, breathing, caressing person to take care of all your needs. It's truly one of the greatest joys of being in a relationship. You can finally kiss those booty calls goodbye.
10. The emotional aspect makes sex hotter
We women are emotional beings, so it's pretty much obvious we'd enjoy sex a lot more with someone we deeply care about. It truly takes it to another level when we know our man shares the love. Being able to have that for the rest of our lives? Bliss.
What are some reasons you support monogamy? Do you prefer the single life? Tweet us @sofeminineUK
